NVC and children

 

To make my view of children clear I want to describe an exercise from Marshall Rosenberg: Imagine your child is Gandhi. Remember a situation in which a child did something, which you did not like. And now imagine another person, you respect very much, a highly appreciated personality. This person is now in your house a guest. Imagine this person is doing the same as the child. What do you say to this person which you respect so much? In my case, I imagine Gandhi as our guest. This exercise showed me that we dehumanize a person in our culture fast if we put it in the category `child´. And as parents, there are some thoughts which make it difficult for us to be parents. For example, there is a belief that we are responsible for the behavior of children. I have to take care of how the child behaves. I see myself as responsible. This is not possible: Nobody can control the behavior of another person.

If I notice how much violence is used towards children, physically or with words, I am suffering. I want to give children a voice to that they can express their needs on the same level as adults. Both counts equivalent. Therefore I focus my workshops on children and people who work with them. I want to offer them a beet ground?? for growing on the same eye level as others. Not: I show you how to do it, I will listen to your ideas.